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Lets face it. Men often go to online dating sites looking for sex. Girls don’t, not as often anyway. So how do you get online girls to sleep with you? The answer: Some of them, you cannot. Some you can, and the way to do it, is to be honest with them about what you want.

There are 3 types of girls on dating sites:
1) Those who won’t sleep with you until they know you genuinely love them. There is absolutely no point for you to try to win them over because for what you are after, they are too much trouble. (Majority group in the US, Muslim and Catholic countries, where ever religion is strongly present. Affects even those who are not religious due to cultural values.)
2) Those who are primarily looking for love, but don’t mind having a bit of casual while waiting for their prince. (Majority group in Europe, especially Northern Europe. Good to know if you want cyber sex.)
3) Those who are just after sex like you are. (Minority group everywhere.)

You are targeting the groups 2 and 3.

In your profile, write that you’re really only looking for sex. Girls who will not consider it, will skip your add and go to the next one, but that’s alright, you couldn’t have talked them into it anyway. The girls who are not very conservative but more sexual in nature, will read on and find out what are your circumstances, why you’re just looking for sex and if that suits their situation. I’ll tell you a couple of stories of when I was single. I was mainly looking for real love, but I wasn’t the type to save it for marriage, I belonged to the second group:

I once replied to a guy who was blatantly looking to hook up only. I was in a phase of my life that I had no real qualms about meeting a hot police officer for a bit of fun and play, and that was exactly what we did for a couple of months, until I met someone I was interested in in a more deep level. Then I just texted him that heya mate, had fun, time to move on, good luck in the future. No mess, we both were on the same page and it worked beautifully. I don’t think his add even had a photo on it, but I went on a date to decide if I wanted anything out of it. Quite honestly I’m not even sure he was actually a police man, but he certainly had the build for it and if he was or not didn’t really matter in that situation. (However I do believe he was the real deal, as he never acted out of character. I didn’t check his badge or anything. )

The reason why I’m sharing this is that it really pays off to be honest. What ever you’re after there’ll be someone that will go for it. If he would have pretended to be after love and then ask me for sex, I would have just told him to go fuck himself, no chance in hell he would have succeeded. Or, if he would have then changed his mind and wanted a relationship, no way! That would have ended everything as well.

Tell you another example. I knew this super hot black boxer guy (in the real life), who I had drooled over for years. I finally hooked up with him once and then about a week later he texted me that he had computer problems and maybe I could help him with it. He opened the door in his underwear, and told me his computer was fine. I was so not in the mood because I had come over to fix his computer, not his other problems and I became very annoyed and told him that the next time he wants sex, just say so and I simply left. I never met him again and all his magic had disappeared.

When you are looking to hook up for sex only, you can lie about things like your profession. It really doesn’t matter if you’re not a cop, if you can pull off the role well enough, and be prepared to give some valid advice on when to call a cop or something. Girls will argue in the comments that they don’t want fake cops. Of course they don’t, but you can create a bit of a fantasy and if you can deliver I see no problem with it. However, there’s absolutely no NEED to do that to get laid.

What you want to do writing your profile, is to sound like a fun guy, who is safe to hang out with, who has a good head on his shoulders, and isn’t too creepy. You can’t sound like you’re riddled with guilt doing that, but you’ll have to sound like what you’re dong is fine in your books and you want to find a girl who is fine with that as well. I will NOT tell you how to do all that, because if you can’t then probably I don’t want to advice you on how to deceive girls. I’m mentioning it so that you will know that it matters what you write and how you write it, more even than what it matters on a “normal” dating profile. Girls will forgive flaws of men that they love, but they will not forgive flaws of men they sleep with. Men work the opposite way. If you don’t have success, that’s where I would look for the reason.

You don’t have to post your face on this type of profile, a good body shot will do fine – girls will understand – but never ever post a photo of your private parts. Trust me, that would be a bad idea! When you have a private connection with someone, you should email the photo of your face at that point, it creates trust. Better yet, have a web cam -conversation with her. Also, call her on the phone before meeting up, if nothing but to set up where to meet her, and always meet her on a public place first, that is again creating trust.

If you are looking for a kink-partner, go to an appropriate website, obviously, and again, be honest. When it comes to kink though, you really have to be 100% honest about everything. If you don’t reveal a detail that’s fine (unless the detail happens to be that you’re actually married or in a relationship) but don’t lie. It is also an option for you to find an “adult dating site” which are created for this exact use. Be aware though that these sites have a lot of “professionals” on them, so be suspicious if an unusually gorgeous girl is approaching you.

Why you should leave the Group 1 alone

First, they don’t want to have anything to do with you. They think you’re a creep and waste of oxygen. They will not change their minds.
Secondly, although it is possible for you to fool them into having sex with you, it usually takes a lot of time and effort, and sometimes money to get there. Often it’s really not worth it, because they want to validate your love for one another, while you just want to fuck her silly. That is not to say that they wouldn’t fuck you silly if the relationship goes on, but that requires some real emotions from you.
Thirdly, they know the game you’re playing already. You might be able to fool a 16-year old, but when they’re past 20, they’re so over you and your type. I know you don’t mind a 16-year old, but make note that they do come with a legal protection in this area.
You are after easy sex, right? If not, you’re just being emotional.

To recap, girls weren’t born yesterday either. Apart from the ones that were, obviously. They can see through bullshit a lot better than you can, and they have OPTIONS. They don’t HAVE to sleep with you even though they didn’t want anything else from a guy, because a quality chick can ALWAYS get laid when she wants to. So don’t waste your time bugging girls who are not interested in casual sex, but put your energy into creating a quality profile for yourself and let them come to you. A quality chick wouldn’t write a sex only ad on a dating site, but she might just contact you for it if you have presented yourself well enough. The best thing you can really pull an advantage over the average Joe is by being honest about what you want. There ARE girls just as sexual as you are, you just have to make yourself available and intriguing option for them.

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