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Reading through articles about online dating, they often start with a sentiment along the lines of “now that online dating has become a norm…” I wonder if it really has. When ever I talk about creating an online dating site (MyNook.com.au) my friends look at me funny. They know I found my husband online, and they’re fine with that, but the panic sets in when they think I’m going to ask them to join my site. Many of them say they’re going to tell their friends about it, but won’t promise anyone joining, “because I don’t know if they’re into that sort of thing or not…” with the kind of tone that says “they’re not desperate enough yet.” I think one of my friends had a huge sigh of relief when she found a boyfriend just before my site went live. “Oh I would have joined, but I have a boyfriend now…” I get the feeling, that most people are fine with online dating as long as THEY don’t have to do it, or as long as nobody knows they’re doing it.

I suppose, a few decades ago it was a bit similar if you found your mate in a night club. According to norms, you were supposed to find someone in a respectable place, like at school or work, at a store, hobby group, through friends… Anything but a night club. Even in my times, just about ten years ago, people were sceptical about the possibility of finding true love at a night club. Back then, the rationale was exactly the same as it is now with online dating: People there are not serious about love, they’re just after sex! (And also it was a bit desperate to “hang out at the bar just waiting to hook up with someone”.)

Now that online dating has been invented, night clubs are the right place to look for love, because you can meet the people in person and everyone goes to them anyway. You can tell what they are like as you walk in and you won’t be fooled or killed… Do you notice the sift of attitude? Before we were afraid of all those horrible things happening at night clubs, now they’re just bound to happen online. Now, it’s not good to find love at school, work or through mutual friends, because things can get complicated if things don’t work out.

I think that until they find a way to scan the backs of your eye balls for some hidden genetic code that will match you perfectly with a potential partner, online dating will be the wrong kind of dating… That’s just the way people are.

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