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Many, many women give up online dating because they get SO MUCH downright assholy emails. (I know it’s not a word but it bloody well should be.) It is a problem on most, if not all dating sites, that there is just that one type of men who simply do not get it. I personally got sick of this. VERY sick. So what I am about to share with you is not exactly a nice thing to do, but sometimes you have to do what you have to do. Unfortunately this will weed out some pretty cool guys as well, but for the most part, it works. So before giving up, hear my story:

When I was dating, I ran a website about my experiences as a single girl. In time, it grew in popularity so, that I kept hearing that “everyone reads it” and people stopped me on the streets to ask me if I was “the Sebastyne”. It was pretty cool really. One of my most commented sections on the site was my “idiotic email on my dating inbox” -page. It was where I copy-pasted all email from the stupid ass mother fuckers that bothered me. It gave great content for my site, and every time I got a stupid email, I got glad rather than mad, because it was yet another addition to my gallery of morons. That in itself didn’t stop them from emailing me, but when I added a warning on my dating profile, that I WILL PUBLISH idiotic email on my site, and I might not remove your name of it, they diminished to those who really don’t read your profile at all. (To my surprise it became evident that some of these jackasses actually did read it first.)

To further assure that even the biggest jackasses knew that there was something different about my profile, I wrote this on my profile photo: “Please, before you message me, read my whole profile.” THAT caught the eye of even the most impatient, and the flood of idiotic email nearly stopped. That gave me the reputation of the biggest bitch online, but who cares, really? I recommend that where ever you decide to publish these, if you will, you include a link to the “previous morons” so that the good men will realize what utter garbage some guys send your way, and know that you’re not just being a drama queen. The good guys really find it hard to phantom the level of idiocy their fellow men can stoop to.

Do you have some examples to share of these emails? Feel free to add them in the comments, with your commentary attached of course! Be the bitch that bites back!

If you are concerned about legal issues, in some countries there is something called secrecy of correspondence which protects the mail to be opened by any 3rd party, but either the sender or the receiver of the letter is free to publish it, unless it contains something that can be protected under the copyright laws.

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I will publish this one a day early, because of one man who needed no warnings, and wrote me the best email I’ve ever received on an online dating site; My husband of 4 years, and best friend of 5, My Brettels. Happy anniversary, darling, love you heaps.

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– and if you think that’s true, I’ll show you a sad loser. *Holds up a mirror*

I mean, if you won’t try online dating because you think it’s for desperate people, what exactly are you saying? If you join up, you’ll get infected? People change into desperate losers because they join an online dating site? Is this the same kind of effect as listening to records backwards allegedly has? Doesn’t your attitude simply reflect a poor self-esteem? Aren’t you simply not doing something because you are afraid of a social stigma? How does that make you any better than the people who hold their heads up high in their profile picture? Your logic is lost with me.

Sure, if you’re a loser you can try online dating, but sadly you most likely won’t be any more attractive online than you are offline. People don’t change online! If you are a loser, you stay a loser no matter what kind of a monthly payment you make! The same goes with people who hook up with he opposite sex without any problems at all, they continue doing so online, but they have a lot more options to choose from! The advantage of online dating, whether you are a sad loser or not, is that you will multiply your options. That’s it. There are more people that will possibly be interested in you, and on the flip side of the coin, there are more people who you will find interesting. Using online dating doesn’t mean you have to give up or are forced to give up meeting people “in the real life”, it is just another way to meet people, another, very interesting way to do so. It is not necessarily better than doing it IRL, but it is different, and will suit a certain type of personality better, for example those WHO ARE NOT SHALLOW IDIOTS.  Online you actually have to prove you have a brain, in the real life it doesn’t seem to be that big of an issue as long as you have a pulse… (How’s that not desperate?)

What is it about online dating exactly, that you think is desperate? The fact you say that you are out there, single and looking? Didn’t everyone know that yet? If it’s that you actually admit that you want to find someone? In my opinion, it is the most natural thing to want; to find someone to share your life with (or moments even), so how is it desperate to look for love online? Or is it just because you think that the ONLY PEOPLE who use online dating are the outcasts that nobody wants? Here’s a newsflash for you: Most of my friends have found their mates online, and my friends are the type that have to fight the most eager ones off with a stick! I’m not exactly a dog either, and I found my husband online, and HE is the most amazing thing I’ve ever met, and there is no way in hell we would have met in the real life, ever. And to top that off, on average the online started relationships are more balanced and happy, because THEY KNEW WHAT THE OTHER ONE WAS LIKE before they went on to confirm it a “relationship”. You know how in the real life it is very easy to kind of get stuck with someone even though you’re not that into them because you find out too late in that you don’t really like them that much? Online you are more likely to find that out pretty early on, because you are required to communicate.

In my experience online daters are those with an iron strong self-esteem, who don’t give a toss about who is snickering at them feeling all superior because they don’t have a profile online. (At least with a picture on it, right?) Sometimes these strong people get approached as if they were desperate losers, but those hopefuls will be sadly disappointed if they think they’re going to get somewhere that way. But hey, what ever. If this is just another excuse to talk yourself out of doing something you really want to do… Not our loss. Just the next time you decide saying something to those lines, remember my mirror, and when you die alone as the sad loser you are, at least people will say: “Well, at least she wasn’t being desperate!” [/rant]

(So okay, if you are not into online dating it doesn’t automatically make you a sad loser, but it works both ways.)

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