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Archive for October 9th, 2009

“I will love you unconditionally” sounds good, doesn’t it? It is good when it comes to our children, but should never be the case in a romantic relationship. It rarely is and should never be unconditional. It shouldn’t even start without conditions, and most of the time, it doesn’t. Romantic love usually has conditions like; “If you make me laugh, I will love you.” or “If you are sexy, I will love you.” These conditions vary from a person to person, but sometimes the list is very long, sometimes it’s alarmingly short.

If you love someone unconditionally, that means that you should forgive ANYTHING. They can treat you in any way they please, and you will continue loving them. That is obviously not good for you or your self-worth.

The other reason why you should have conditions to your love, is that your love becomes more desirable. If anyone could have you without any conditions, at any time, because you chose to love them first, who would like to be that “anyone”? People want to feel special when they are loved, not a charity case. If they can meet your conditions, they will feel worth loving. What I mean to say is that you’re not only having conditions for your own benefit, but also for your loved one.

This post will be a short one, because the message is easily conveyed. You are worth treating well, and if someone doesn’t they are not worthy of your love. Never mistake unconditional love being the only right kind of love.

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