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Archive for July 31st, 2009

To women, online dating can be a very frustrating past time. Although I am the biggest fan of finding dates online, I know all too well how frustrating it can be and WILL be. It seems that when a guy gets on a dating site, his brain flies right out of the window, and finding a good man can feel impossible. Unless the dating site is very well designed and well thought out, you might want to look for alternatives when finding dates.

If you have a passion for something that is fairly gender non-biased, or better yet, love something very manly (say Aussie footy ) don’t just mention that on your dating profile, but go where the passionate people discuss about the topic. I bet that if you’re not the only one loving it, there will be a discussion board dedicated for that specific past time. Then the only question is: Is there an off topic section on the board? (Note that off topic sections are often reserved for people who are active on the board, and open only after you’ve proven that you’re genuinely interested in the topic.) The off topic section allows you to be really social on the forum and find out things about the fellow members outside the topic. They are really the cream of most forums, while you all have a similar interest it’s not the only thing in your lives – hopefully.

The advantage of this is that you will meet people in a natural way. It’s not instantly sexual, but you can relax and talk about SOMETHING ELSE. You can get to know the men as they are in a real social situation, when they are not overrun by their hormones. If you can find a relaxing general discussion board, that’s good too, but they are very hard to find. Also, don’t avoid small discussion boards, because you’ll get to know the active members a lot faster than what you would on a massive board.

When you spend time on a board that is intended for something completely different than dating, you’ll obviously find a lot of people who are not single but you will also meet people who are. Your options may be more limited but also more targeted. The advantage of dating sites is that everyone is single, but the trouble with them is that they are often not targeted and are not designed so that you can meet people in a non-pressure environment. They are also quite competitive, and people can jump the gun a bit being afraid that someone else will get you if they don’t get there first. However, it’s worth a try.

And again, when you get on these boards, upload an avatar + user photo if possible, and fill out your profile and add a link to your blog, profile or website so that if someone finds you interesting, they can find out more about you. In your “about me” section, mention that you’re single (but not necessarily that you’re looking, in this environment it may sound a bit too obvious and desperate), also make sure your age and sex is there to see. In your signature, if allowed, add the link to your profile, but don’t mention anything about being single, unless you find a way to be really humorous about it.

Because I trust discussion boards to be the KEY to successful online dating, my dating site that is currently being coded, is based on a functional discussion forum. You can keep an eye on the developments at MyNook.com.au .

Happy birthday, granny, where ever you are. <3

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