Intimate O(pi)nions

Archive for June 5th, 2009

We often have a long list of requirements we have on our future companion… A very long. Sometimes it is good to ask ourselves that what it is that we bring onto the table ourselves. What do you have to offer? Advice on how to handle things, aka nagging? Neediness? Demands? Outdated ideas on labor division? Well, let’s look it from the positive point of view. Are you fun to be with? Do you laugh a lot and have a sense of humor? Are you romantic? (Men do like romantic women, but might have problems with overly sugar coating things.) Do you care about your partner? Which one is more important to you, what things look like to the outside or how they truly are? HOW important is it to you, how things look like? Do you make your partner feel loved and cared for, and most importantly, understood?

These questions are important to think about, as a lot of women have an attitude about themselves and their men that they are a price that men have to jump through hoops to deserve, no matter what kind of a hag she is. The same goes with men. Some men expect to date the big breasted model while his own gut is hanging over his belt. Granted, having standards is good, but you have to offer a lot in return! Relationships are ALWAYS two way streets, and our significant others are not our servants, but they would bring you the moon if they could if you make them feel like kings or queens just by being around them. Nagging is so not the way to do it – you will catch a lot more flies with honey – even though I don’t know a woman who would want to catch flies, but bare with me.

Another thing people in general do wrong is to think about the opposite sex as the opposite sex. In reality, there is not that much difference between us, we’re all just people, and we all need to be loved and cared for an accepted. Especially women who have the idea in their head that “men are pigs” and similar thoughts, should realize that men are not the enemy. They are wonderful creatures who have a lot to offer if you treat them as for what they are; people. And men, who worry about “understanding women”, should stop trying to understand all women as a group; all women are different and they should not be put into a same big slab of qualities. These men should just concentrate on understanding this one woman they are involved with.

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