Intimate O(pi)nions

Online dating is not considered romantic by most people. This is, I think, because these people think it’s all too easy to type in the desired sex, age and location and click “search”. Obviously, they never tried it. Online dating is not easy. The advantages of it lie elsewhere, but it’s not about the ease of it. That assumption is also the reason why so many people fail. They go into it like they were using a shopping cart system, and are disappointed, when the response isn’t “your goods will be delivered to you within 3 working days.”

Dating online is easiest for the people who are fluent in people skills in general. The same people that don’t know what to say to women at a dance club won’t know any better online. The only group that gains significant advantage on online dating is the people who find writing a natural form of communication and speaking directly to people slightly scary – people like myself. This is why the belief that online dating is solely for losers, geeks and nerds is not true. Although geeks surely will find themselves more at home at the computer than at the disco bar, we’re still dealing with real, breathing people.

The advantage of online dating is that you don’t HAVE to go out to look for the right one, you can broaden your search outside your town, state or even outside your country (boy did I take that one to heart!) and do that at the time that is good for you. You will meet a lot more people than you would at your local bar, but you will also meet freaks and weirdoes in the same proportion. I’ve always said that the Internet is a great place for dating if you’re a loser or if you’re too picky for your own good. Being too busy aside, I don’t know why the average Joe would want to do online dating unless just for the interest in the method. That was a big motivator for me – besides being picky – I was utterly interested in the technical side of social internet. I’m betting I am not alone on that one, but there is probably more men out there with that side thought in mind.

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